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Asking for things

Asking well is a separate skill. It is not the same as being polite.

25 statements, about 4 minutes

What the result will show

Clear asks naming exactly what you need
Timing choosing a moment when the person can listen
Feeling entitled to ask whether asking for help feels allowed
Taking no how you take a refusal
Gratitude thanking for something specific, not out of form

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1I name exactly what I need

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

2My requests come out vague

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

3I say by when I need it

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

4I ask in a way that makes it hard to refuse

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

5I explain why I need it

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

6I pick a moment when the person can listen

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

7I ask at the last minute

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

8I give warning when help will be needed

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

9I ask when the person is clearly busy

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

10I ask whether now is a good time

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

11I feel awkward asking for help

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

12I do alone what others could help with

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

13I see asking for support as normal

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

14I apologise repeatedly while asking

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

15I ask calmly, without feeling indebted

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

16I take a refusal calmly

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

17I read a refusal as being about me

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

18I do not press after a clear no

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

19I feel hurt when people do not help

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

20I find another way when refused

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

21I thank people specifically, not formally

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

22I forget to say thank you

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

23I tell people exactly how they helped

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

24I return favours when I can

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

25I take other people’s help for granted

Not me at all Rarely me Sometimes Often me That is exactly me

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What this page answers

How I speak in conflict
How well I listen
Directness and softness
Asking for things
Saying no
Apologising
Praise and recognition
How I give criticism
How I take criticism
Silence and pauses