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Tests about how you speak
A hundred sets of twenty-five statements about speech, feelings, people close to you and work. You answer about yourself and see your answers laid side by side.
- 25 statements, about 4 minutes, one per screen
- Answers not saved: no account, nothing sent
- 10 free here, 90 in the app
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How I speak in conflict
Twenty-five statements about what happens to your speech when a conversation turns difficult.
ToneListeningGetting personalPausingRepair
Statement 1 of 25
My voice gets louder than usual in an argument
- Not me at all1
- Rarely me2
- Sometimes3
- Often me4
- That is exactly me5
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The same ones that are free in the app. No account, no sign-up, nothing saved.
Speech
How well I listen
Listening is not silence. This is about what you do while someone else talks.
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Directness and softness
About saying things straight without turning harsh, and gently without turning vague.
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Asking for things
Asking well is a separate skill. It is not the same as being polite.
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Saying no
A refusal is neither rudeness nor betrayal. This is about whether you can say no.
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Apologising
An apology is an action, not a word. This is about how you do it.
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Praise and recognition
Whether you say good things out loud, and in time.
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How I give criticism
Feedback can be said so it lands, or so it is remembered badly for years.
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How I take criticism
About the first thirty seconds after someone tells you something unpleasant.
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Silence and pauses
Silence can be support or punishment. This is about which yours is.
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90 more live in the app
They are all listed here with their titles and what they ask about — you can see what the set contains before you install anything.
Speech 15
Interrupting
Day 2
About who takes up the room in a conversation.
Tone and volume
Day 3
How your voice sounds to people nearby.
Clarity of speech
Day 4
Whether people understand you first time, and what you do if not.
Talking with people close to you
Day 5
We often speak worst with those closest: habit replaces effort.
Talking at work
Day 7
Speech at work differs not by politeness but by precision.
Talking to strangers
Day 9
Starting and holding a conversation with someone new.
Arguing: to win or to get somewhere
Day 12
Why you argue: to understand, or to be right.
Humour in conversation
Day 15
A joke connects and wounds with equal ease.
Talking behind backs
Day 18
About what you say of people when they are not there.
Promises in conversation
Day 21
A promise made in passing is still a promise.
Asking to understand
Day 25
A question is the cheapest way to avoid a needless fight.
Talking while irritated
Day 30
The truest test of speech happens in a bad mood.
Messaging and voice notes
Day 35
Text has no tone: the reader supplies it.
Speaking in public
Day 40
Not about a stage: about any moment when several people watch you.
Admitting you do not know
Day 50
Saying you were wrong saves more time than any debating skill.
Feelings 18
Noticing irritation
Day 60
Irritation signals before we name it.
What I do with anger
Day 75
Anger is not the problem. What it does to your speech is.
Patience
Day 90
Patience is not silent suffering but not spoiling the moment.
Impulsiveness
Day 110
About the gap between wanting to say it and saying it.
Anxiety before a conversation
Day 135
About what happens before you open your mouth.
Feeling hurt
Day 165
Hurt is an expectation that was never spoken.
Shame and guilt
Day 200
Guilt says I did badly; shame says I am bad. These differ.
Recovering after a fight
Day 250
A fight ends not at silence but when contact is restored.
Fatigue and snapping
Day 300
Most snapping is explained by state, not character.
Reacting to unfairness
Day 365
What you do when you or someone near you is treated unfairly.
Envy
Level 1
Envy points at a wish you have not allowed yourself.
Fear of conflict
Level 1
Avoiding a fight and keeping peace are not the same.
Calming yourself
Level 1
What you do when overwhelmed, and whether it works.
Shame
Pack
Shame says I am bad; guilt says I did badly. That difference decides everything.
Loneliness
Pack
Loneliness is rarely about how many people are around.
Joy and gratitude
Pack
Good things are harder to notice: they demand nothing.
The need for control
Pack
Control soothes the controller and exhausts everyone else.
Loss and grief
Pack
Grief is not cured by words, but words make it lighter or heavier.
People close to you 15
My boundaries
Level 1
Boundaries are not walls but a message about what is not acceptable.
Other people boundaries
Level 1
Half of all conflicts are someone no heard as convince me.
Trust
Level 1
Trust is built in small things and broken by one.
Helping others
Level 1
Help can be support, or a way to feel needed.
Conflict with a partner
Level 1
How you fight with the person closest to you.
Talking with parents
Level 2
With parents we often speak in a voice thirty years old.
Talking with children
Level 2
Children hear tone before words and repeat it longest.
Friendship
Level 2
Friendship rests on attention, not on memories.
Forgiveness
Level 2
Forgiving is not agreeing.
Repair after a row
Pack
Relationships survive on repair speed, not on the absence of rows.
Jealousy and comparison
Pack
Jealousy speaks about fear, not about the other person.
Money with people close to you
Pack
People stay silent about money with family more often than about feelings.
Extended family
Pack
With relatives limits matter most and are hardest to set.
Neighbours and strangers nearby
Pack
Neighbours need not like each other; they need to talk.
Brothers and sisters
Pack
With siblings you speak the way you learned as a child.
Work 13
Deadlines and promises
Level 2
Reliability at work is what a reputation is made of.
Owning mistakes at work
Level 2
How fast you own a mistake matters more than the mistake.
Feedback to colleagues
Level 2
Feedback describes what happened, it does not judge a person.
Disagreement at work
Pack
A work disagreement is about the task, not about rank.
Meetings
Pack
In a meeting your words cost more: everyone hears them at once.
How I lead
Pack
People are led by how you talk, not by your title.
Delegating and asking
Pack
Delegating is not dumping.
On a team
Pack
A team is what happens between the tasks.
Negotiation
Pack
Negotiations go to the prepared, not the loud.
Work and life limits
Pack
Limits are held with words, not with exhaustion.
Burnout
Pack
Burnout starts with irritation, not tiredness.
Working remotely
Pack
At a distance only words arrive; tone gets invented.
Talking about money
Pack
Money is discussed in numbers, not hints.
Yourself 11
Self-worth
Pack
Self-worth is audible in how you speak about yourself.
Honesty with yourself
Pack
Lying to yourself is easiest: nobody argues back.
The inner critic
Pack
People harsh with themselves are rarely gentle with others.
Goals and momentum
Pack
A goal with no next step is a wish.
Promises to yourself
Pack
Promises to yourself break quietly, and so break most often.
Looking at yourself
Pack
Reviewing a day is worth more than intending to live it better.
Willingness to change
Pack
People change behaviour in specific situations, not their character.
Whose voice is in you
Pack
Much of what we say to our family we once heard ourselves.
Time and attention
Pack
Where attention goes, life goes.
Making decisions
Pack
A postponed decision is still a decision, made by someone else.
Owning your life
Pack
While circumstances are to blame, there is nothing to change.
Habits 8
Sleep and irritability
Pack
Sleep debt does not make you cruel; it removes the brakes.
Attention and the phone
Pack
Talking to someone looking at a screen feels like a favour granted.
Putting things off
Pack
People postpone the feeling, not the work.
What sets me off
Pack
A blow-up almost always starts with the same thing.
Filler words
Pack
Fillers do not spoil meaning; they eat the trust in the speaker.
Alcohol and speech
Pack
Drink does not change what you say; it removes the filter.
Body, voice and breath
Pack
Tone is born in the body before the word is born in the head.
The company you keep
Pack
Speech is catching: we talk like the people we spend time with.
Online 10
Tone in writing
Pack
Text has no voice: the reader supplies the tone, usually not in your favour.
Arguing online
Pack
Online arguments rarely convince anyone; they display you.
Comments and reviews
Pack
A review is read by others, but first of all by the person it names.
Work chats
Pack
A work chat is a document, not kitchen talk.
Voice notes and calls
Pack
A voice note saves the sender time and spends the listener.
Social media and self-image
Pack
Someone feed is made of their best minutes; comparing your life to it is unfair.
Anonymity
Pack
Anonymity does not change a person; it shows them without witnesses.
Jokes online
Pack
A joke with no voice or face is just words, and words are read literally.
Other people privacy
Pack
A forwarded message outlives the trust that produced it.
Strangers online
Pack
A stranger online is a person, only without a face in front of you.
25 of the 90 open as you keep a run of days going, 15 as you move up levels, and 50 come in packs.
A structured way to look at yourself: you answer about yourself, and your answers are put side by side. You are compared only with you, and it is not a diagnosis.